So how does all the division and unwelcome-ness happen? Invariably it is because we break down into groups. Generically we call these groups cliques, as long as they are the ones that we are not a part of. The idea is that these groups are, if not organized, controlled by a semi-rigid system of rules and guidelines. Those who match the requirements of the group are generally admitted, while those who don't are essentially shunned.
Groups are an important part of life, I think it essential that we recognize our own interests and talents in others–and learn to seek out those others in order to progress and increase our own abilities. However these groups should NEVER be based on economic, racial, or any other social criteria. Rather we should see ourselves grouped according to our habits, interests, beliefs, and our personalities.
Within the church there is a healthy mix of all types of experiences and people. It is obvious that groups would be a common phenomenon of the ward structure. The organization of the church as a whole encourages groups. However, the church structure, unlike a natural or worldly organization, depends on the cooperation of these units in order to function (just think if the Democrats and Republicans tried to work together in order to achieve their goals).
Unfortunately, too often the inter-personal level of the church is ruled by the social stigmas that govern cliques. When this happens there are immediate divisions along the lines of social status, or more insidiously, according to perceived righteousness. What makes the later so dangerous is that the accepted and rejected instantly consider the other group to be the lesser–or evil–of the two. The resulting division robs the self-conceived 'right group' of the ability to progress–which can easily be both groups.
In a well balanced group–speaking from the viewpoint of within the church–there exists a strong understanding that we are all a part of the same structure. Whatever interests or influences that might exist within us are second to our dedication to the Lord and His work. Furthermore, we are all in the same boat, spiritually speaking, regardless of our proficiency in the gospel pursuits.
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2 comments:
my ward is cliquey too, and I'm not in one
Agreed. Completely.
Mine too Kerri.
I once read a book, and the name of it I can not recall, Sister's in Zion or something like that. It reflected the thoughts of ten different woman through out one sacrament meeting.
Something like:
Sarah: "I wish I were like Betty, she looks so together. She is perfectly groomed. Why look at those nails, I wish I had time to get my nails done. She must even have time to pray. I can't imagine not going to bed so tired.. ..."
Betty: "Look at Sarah. Her children are so well behaved, you can tell they have been taught well just by the way they look at their Mom. I miss my children being young. They never looked at me with such respect. I tried to teach them to sit through church, I tried to teach them the principles and ordinances of the gospel, now look where they are..."
It was a VERY powerful book. It is extraordinary, how we perceive other's in life. Adding the gospel and its eternal perspectives should enhance our love and acceptance, understanding and patience.
I think we miss a lot, as we are glancing around the chapel.
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